Me and my boyfriend have never had intercourse (I’m still a virgin), but we do mutually masturbate each other regularly. Normally it is fun for the both of us and virtually worry free. He always fingers me (my pants and panties are pulled up - he puts his hands inside my pants to finger me) first, and after I climax, he pulls down his pants and I give him a hand job. When he does finally ejaculate, he does it NO WHERE near my vagina. In fact, when it happens, I have my pants on, and he always sticks his penis back into his pants to avoid a mess. Like I said, usually it’s a no biggie situation, and a situation that is darn near impossible to result in pregnancy. However, the other night, something different went down. I wasn’t particularly worried at the time, but as time has passed (Two weeks today), I’ve been having all these thoughts and second guessing things, which has led me to being CONSTANTLY stressed and worried for the past week that I am pregnant.
The last time we did this, he had his hands down my pants and was fingering me as usual… Things were going great. However, I noticed that about 3 times, he took his hands out of my pants and touched his penis, then immediately began to finger me again. At first, I thought that he was touching his penis over his pants… However, after, I realized that his penis was out, and that he was most likely touching his bare penis and then fingering me. I know that he produces pre-cum. I guess I’m worried that some pre-cum was transferred from his fingers to my vagina. I’m almost 100% sure that he urinated before all of this happened… and that would have flushed any leftover sperm from his last ejaculation out. So, most likely there wasn’t even any sperm at all in his pre-cum. At this point, he had not ejaculated at all. And, I don’t even know if there was pre-cum, but he had an erection, so I’m sure there was.
I’ve been told that there really isn’t too much of a pregnancy risk from what had happened. And that most likely, even though he was fingering me directly after touching his penis, most of the pre-cum would have been wiped on the inside of my pants, therefore making it even less likely that I would have had a risk bc sperm are so delicate.
The only problem is I am late for my period. I mean, I’m not super regular. Sometimes it comes a little early, and sometimes it’s a little late. But, I’m now on day 34 of my cycle, and I am FREAKING OUT! Literally, all I have been thinking about is this and I am stressed beyond belief. And, I’m not really having any symptoms that would suggest that my period is coming. I have noticed a slightly yellow tinged discharge dried in my panties… and my lower back has been hurting and my nipples looks slightly darker. But, for all I know, the discharge is just normal, everyday discharge and the lower back pain could be from having a job that requires me to stand up for hours at a time or something equally strenuous on my back. And I think right now, the stress is causing me to be hyper aware of my body. Like, my nipples were probably always this color, and I’ve never even noticed.
Anyways… I’m just scared. I’ve never had to deal with a pregnancy scare before. :( Do you guys have any advice or something that could ease my mind? Thanks in advance for any help you can offer.
I understand you are worried about becoming pregnant, but the simple answer is you are not.
Urinating before sex will not clear out his penis of pre-cum, a erection does not mean he is producing pre-cum.
I can assure you that you are not pregnant. Sperm can not survive very long outside of the human body temperature range.
There is a condition called “hysterical pregnancy” when a woman might want to be pregnant but whose body is just mimicking the condition. Sometimes this happens when menopause occurs. You are most likely experiencing this.
If you are still worried you can always get tested.