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This is a normal feeling. You just experience something new for the first time. Society makes you feel that losing your virginity is important and if you lose it to the wrong person your life will be ruined forever. Give it time and you’ll come to terms with it and you will be happy that it was him.

And if not, that is okay too. Again you are experiencing normal feelings, everything will be fine. I promise.

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It’s not unusual at all. It happens to guys too. It’s pretty understandable when you think about it. People’s legs shake whenever they’re nervous or excited, and what’s more exciting than sex? You don’t know if you’re going to enjoy it or not. You don’t know if your partner is going to enjoy it or not. You might be worried about pregnancy (I hope you used protection.) or a whole host of relationship questions, so anyone who isn’t both nervous and excited under those circumstances would be the one with the real problem, right?

And when your legs start shaking, that just makes you more apprehensive, and your nervousness just feeds on itself. So if it happens again, just remember that there’s nothing wrong with you, and try to focus on the reason why your legs are shaking: you’re having sex!

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1. Safety first. There’s no such thing as totally safe sex, but you sure can be safer. Make sure he’s wearing a condom (even if you’re on the Pill) and talk about your respective sexual histories. I know it may sound like a buzz-kill, but heterosexual women have a higher risk of contracting an STI (sexually transmitted infection) than men, so it’s up to you to take a proactive interest in your sexual health.

2. Don’t have too-high expectations. Sex generally improves as you get to know someone and become more comfortable with each other’s bodies. So don’t feel pressured to make it the best night ever, because this is just the first of many.

3. Breathe. First-time sex can be tense and nerve-wracking, not to mention painful sometimes. Taking long, deep breaths can help you relax and let go.

4. Don’t forget to enjoy foreplay. All the stuff that leads up to intercourse — kissing, touching, oral sex — is part of the sexual experience; it’s not just about penetration.

5. Make sure you’re amply aroused before intercourse. Not only do you want to be genuinely turned on, you want to be sufficiently lubricated. If you’re too dry, he’ll have trouble entering you, you’ll feel discomfort, and the friction can cause the condom to rip. So, keep water–based lube on hand just in case.

6. Speak up. Let him know what feels good, and what doesn’t. Guys crave feedback, so don’t be shy about clueing him in.

7. Don’t assume he’s the expert. He may be getting a lot of his information about sex from porn and the tall tales of his buddies in the locker room. And, even if he is experienced, every sexual encounter is unique. He’s just as worried about pleasing you as you are about getting him off.

8. Don’t expect to have an orgasm. Of course, it’s great if you do. But, most women don’t climax the first few times with a new guy. Orgasms come with a sense of comfort and specific knowledge of each other’s bodies, and that takes time.

9. Don’t fake it. If you do, you’ll only be cheating yourself. Letting him know you came close and want to get there with him will keep him motivated.

10. His penis may malfunction. Guys get anxious too. Premature ejaculation and erectile difficulty are common the first time a man sleeps with someone. If he has a problem, don’t make a big deal out of it or worry that there’s something wrong with you or your connection. More than likely, it will work itself out.

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This is not an easy question to answer, I do not know very much about you to give you a solid answer. This is a vague enough answer I can give, I hope you understand.

The more you surround yourself with women, the easier it will be to talk to a “pretty smile”. You can incorporate your shy and oddball personality into the conversation and not ignore your true self. Having a child can make is a good way to balance life. You have a child and you know you can not always have fun.

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You’re very welcome!

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I am not sure why it is impossible for you to get on birth control.

They’re plenty of Planned Parenthoods and other free clinics for 17 year old girls like you around the nation that will supply you with FREE birth control. I highly recommend that you get on some type of regular birth control.

As for using the morning after pill (Plan B) as a substitution for contraceptive. DO NOT. emergency contraceptive should be only used for just that, emergencies, and NOT as a regular interval birth control method. Seriously, don’t use emergency contrastive regularly.

You most likely have become emotionally attached to this guy, you need to express to him that you have feelings for him and you would like more out of the “relationship”. I understand the conversation can be difficult, but the longer you keep up the charades the worse it will end up.

For your own emotional well being tell this guy how you feel.