Q: How do I get used to swallowing. I can't seem to do it. I can't stand the taste or texture of semen and I can't deep throat. It seems unfair to my partner that I can't. Also, I am not comfortable with anything being near my anus. Anything that goes near the area makes me want to tense up. I've tried anal sex but couldn't go all the way with it because even lubed up it hurt. Can you help please?-asked by Anonymous
With regards to your “swallowing problem” unfortunately men tend to taste a bit salty and milky. The new texture, taste, and temperature doesn’t seem to add up to a dish that will please very many pallets.
Now since you have an understanding of what it tastes like it just swallow it as if it was grape flavored medicine. Make sure to have a sweet drink near to mask the taste and texture. You can also encourage your partner to eat more fruits and naturally sweet foods, stay away from meats, cheese, and fish. Yes the pineapple trick does work but so do most sweet foods.
When talking about deep throating, people immediate think about gag reflex, since this is the hardest part of performing deep throat.
Before I go into the details, I must first tell you the 3 basics steps that help you eliminate the gag reflex or at least keep it at a minimum level. These 3 steps are: relax breath and stay in control. Remember, in order to feel more relax when giving a blow job you should constantly remind yourself to breathe through your nose as you will probably forget to breathe in the heated moment.
Also, your muscle will likely to tense up no matter which position you are in, you must remain conscious of your muscle, where it is, how is it, and relax it, it will help your movement become smoother thus reduce the gag reflex.
Lastly, find a position where you are in control of the movement, for example kneeling over your man when he is laying on his back, this will help you control the penis to the less sensitive area of the throat, thus help you with reducing gag reflex.
It is not impossible to fit the entire penis into your mouth. For example, the gag reflex will becomes more frequent if the motions become faster, more intense. So remember to set a pace that you both can enjoy, slow and steady for example, plus most guys got turned on by a steadier motions.
Also you should use other part of your body to add in the enjoyment of both parties, like using your tongue to wrap around the shaft and the corona, the area between the head and the staffs, where it is very sensitive.
You should also remember the hand job, it might seems like a mood killer but adding it into the blow job it a total turn on for the guys.
Now finally for anal:
You must be comfortable and it would not be wise for you to be standing. That makes it harder to relax your anal muscles. On your back, missionary, completely relaxed would probably be best in the beginning.
Additionally… use a lot of lube. The anus is not like the vagina, and does not produce it’s own lube. You might also want to get a couple of toys to start with as well. Something small, then something slightly larger, but still smaller than him. Take is slow. In fact, I would recommend that you try the toys by yourself a few times just to see if you will be able to relax enough for your anus to open. You must above all feel relaxed and comfortable. If you are just a bit nervous you will tense up your musclesFeb252014
Q: I am a female who is 46 and I just asked the question about semen and anal sex.-asked by Anonymous
No one is a mind reader, not even the Long Island Medium. I can’t tell you what your partner is experiencing sexually and don’t assume what your partner is or isn’t feeling.
The solution is very simple, just ask “what do you feel during a given act”
I can make an educated guess that your partner might not be having the same physical experiences, but they are feeling something pleasurable.Feb252014
Q: I'm a 38 year old male who has a reputation of being... Let's call it loved by the ladies... What are you meant to do if something looking a little like a green blister grows on and falls off your penis leaving behind a small wound which keeps oozing pus and stings like a mother fucker but you don't want to go to the doc's with this shit?-asked by Anonymous
You should go to the doctorFeb222014
Q: Is there a way to make my pussy tighter? I have already lost my virginity but I love being tight-asked by Anonymous
Kegel exercises strengthen pelvic floor muscles, the muscles that stretch during childbirth. They help improve sexual pleasure (more intense orgasms) by making the muscles stronger and more elastic, and they can improve bladder tone so that you don’t leak urine. They won’t, however, actually make your vagina smaller, but they can make the opening tighter.
Here’s how to do Kegel exercises:
When you’re peeing, clench (without your hands) your muscles to stop the flow of urine for about four seconds. Then release those same muscles to let the urine flow again. These are your pelvic floor muscles; these are the muscles you’ll be exercising when you do Kegels.
If you want to check and make sure that you’re using the right muscles, put a finger or two into your vagina. Tighten the muscles. If you can feel your fingers being squeezed (even just a little), then you’ve located the right muscles.
About five to ten times a day, repeat the Kegels ten times per session.
It can take up to 8 to 10 weeks to notice improvement, and there will most certainly be improvement. Like any kind of weight lifting or muscle building exercises, Kegels take time to make a difference! (Adding a vaginal barbell to your regular Kegel exercise routine can help. They are available at specialty stores that carry sex toys or sexual enhancement items.)
If you do Kegel exercises enthusiastically and regularly, and notice no change at all, ask your health care provider about other methods to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, including:
These objects are weighted, tampon-sized devices that a woman puts into her vagina and holds there. A set of cones increases gradually in weight. One starts with the lightest cone, inserts it into the vagina, and squeezes the muscles to hold it in place. This is done twice a day, for about fifteen minutes per session, while going about one’s usual activities. When a woman is successful at keeping the cone in place, she can move on to the next heavier cone, working her way up to the heaviest.Feb222014
Q: Me & my boyfriend have heated make out sessions, I always get like a hundred orgies and its weird because all we're doing is making out, and I wonder if it happens to him too, but idk how to ask him, or figure it out myself, help?-asked by Anonymous
I’m not sure if I understand your question, I have an idea but I need clarificationFeb222014
Q: I don't know if you've ever answered a similar question to this- but I figured I'd give it a go. My boyfriend and I decided we were ready to have sex, but every time we try it's incredibly painful for me and we have to stop. No matter how much foreplay we try, how much lube we use, or what position we try, it still hurts a lot. I really love him and want to be with him- do you have any advice on how to… stretch things out down there in a less painful way so it will be easier?-asked by Anonymous
You might be tense and nervous, that will restrict your vaginal walls from becoming relaxed and lose. I’m glad you are using lube, but it might not be a problem physically. Just take your time and just relaxFeb222014
Q: This is going to seem really juvenile but I guess that's ok. So basically I have really nice clear skin except between my boobs. It's AWEFUL and nothing the dermatologist has given me is working! I hate letting my boyfriend see my boobs because of it and I'm super self conscious. Would be better to just not let him take my shirt off any more or to just let him see my skin? I mean I feel like he should be really grossed out by it but he doesn't seem to be, but I am... Help?-asked by Anonymous
It really depends. I can say yes, take your shirt off, but you are self conscious about that and I beloved all you will think about is your chest and nothing else. I believe you will take off the shirt when you feel comfortable, it’s not a simple yes or no. Give it some time and it will come off.
If your boyfriends wants it off just explain to him you a bit self conscious. I’m sure he will understandFeb222014
My followers and people searching tumblr.
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Happy Thanksgiving y’allNov222012
I know a couple weeks ago I promised that I will just answering questions. I bet you are wondering where has this person gone yet again, well I am working before school starts and it’s been very difficult for me to manage my time appropriately. I will start again tonight (PST) answering the questions that people have submitted.
Thank you all so much for understanding. You mean a lot to meJul252012
To the person that asked for their friend who does not have a tumblr I am unable to answer anonymous questions privately.
I am willing to answer it privately if you just message me off anon. I have the question save.Mar132012
Q: I lost my virginity two nights ago, with a guy I've been dating for three years now, and don't get me wrong I don't regret losing it to him, he really is the sweetest and best thing to ever happen to me but now I wish I hadn't. And I can't take back what I've done, I know that. I am legal and protection was used. I just don't know what to do and how to deal with it. I am Muslim and I hope you don't judge me for it. I just feel like you would understand. Any personal experience/ advice? Help ):-asked by Anonymous
This is a normal feeling. You just experience something new for the first time. Society makes you feel that losing your virginity is important and if you lose it to the wrong person your life will be ruined forever. Give it time and you’ll come to terms with it and you will be happy that it was him.
And if not, that is okay too. Again you are experiencing normal feelings, everything will be fine. I promise.Mar132012
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